“If you haven’t had marriage problems, you haven’t been married long enough.” Mark my words, the best of marriages will be challenged. And yes, this writer is speaking from personal experience.
One of my best examples is R and J. A pastor and and a marriage-family therapist, married 40 years and needed counseling/guidance from outside experts over 4 different seasons. A pastor and a marriage-family therapist?! If they needed help at times, you will definitely need guidance.
If you feel hopeless, you are not alone. It is possible to rally. It can start with one and eventually both sides must work at it. You can be better than ever, if you both so choose. As for my latest favorite example, check out this listen by the lead singer of MercyMe (Bart Millard and his wife Shannon)… https://www.focusonthefamily.com/media/daily-broadcast/trusting-god-through-the-messiness-of-life-pt2